Are you a feelings driven person or someone who thinks, ponders, arrives at conclusions slowly, carefully?
And then acts on the course best suited that matches the choices in the situation at hand? Recognize your talents, skills, purpose even if those you love do not. Learn your unique abilities, especially the ones hidden, dormant, not stretched or developed.
Sometimes It’s A Simple Case Of Start Living, Or Start Dying.
Be glad people come in more than thirty one flavors. That they are different than you and me. Embrace those differences, don’t consider them liabillities. Or hold them back. Accept another person’s insecurities, love them more for them when you see their struggle to improve. That they need your help and you can offer them a hand, shoulder to lean on. We need each other. Recognize your limitations, keep coloring within the lines. See God’s plan for your life.
Maybe you are over due for a “life review”.
Open up your heart, make the time to look deep within yourself. Something you will like, will surprise you. Other darkness, thorns will help explain the shape you have. Where you need improvement. God can empower you to be more, live healthier, and do great things for those around you. Don’t just exist, coast, be apathetic or self centered. Live outside yourself and open your eyes, ears, heart and soul. Make your life fruitfull. Avoid exaggerations, resist comparisions between other people and yourself.
Make the most with what you have been given to work with. Discover your many hidden talents, your self worth that might be a little low. Develop your potential that you are loaded with but maybe blind to see and realize. I have learned to remember, always keep my eyes on my own paper. To work at changing me for the better, not worrying about where others need adjustment. I can only change me.
Keep a spiritual journal, don’t waste any peaks, valleys, twists or turns you are taken through. Glean, squeeze out the knowledge, learn more about yourself in the process. Get on, stay on your knees and looking up for direction, much needed guidance.
Maine is a great place for the space you need to do this. Beautiful surroundings, friendly people but not overpopulated. Spread out and not jammed in. Get here quick as you can.
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Maine is famous for success stories. It is still a place where if you have a good idea, a passion to create something from thin air, anything is possible with hard work, dedication.
Joyce Transue’s culinary talent is well known and over the last fourteen years Southern Aroostook County has benefited greatly from her efforts in the kitchen. Hank her carpenter husband and daughter Emily have worked as a team to transform a classic downtown brick building in to a thriving Maine restaurant business. Come meet them in person! Tour the operation, ask lots of questions. Sellers will train.
And good news, if you are looking to tie on an apron, are good dealing with the public, like to cook and create an atmosphere that is memorable, fun, fulfilling. The Courtyard Cafe and Garden Bar is for sale. Take the video tour of this Houlton Maine business.
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Buy a job, maybe this is the carrot to get you to finally act on the dream to live, work, play in Maine. Be honest, if you are one of the eight out of ten people who live in a city, urban area. Are you feeling safe, have the elbow room and space you desire to be happy? No? Bail out, move, relocate to Maine. The way life should be.
Consider seriously owning, running and making what you are worth with a Maine business property listing.
The sense of satisfaction of taking a well run fourteen year strong Maine business and taking it to the next level will be rewarding, satisfying.
Develop the second floor that can be three rental offices and a landlord’s efficiency apartment. Enjoy income from two store fronts that create extra traffic for your business. This happy couple, family have done a first class job creating from scratch a thriving, healthy fun restaurant business.
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Let’s face it, meeting someone that you agree with 100 percent with all the time is not realistic.
And who would want to date, marry your twin, a clone, someone identical? A person different than you broadens you, comes in to a relationship with expertise, talents, experiences you lack in lots of areas. And can improve you. And you do likewise if you can adopt effective ways to deal with conflict resolution. Look, embrace those differences. List the good rather than what the other person lacks that you wished they had.
The couple that says we never fight, disagree, argue.
Whoa. If there is a healthy input from both sides to achieve unity, oneness more often than not, there is going to be a bit of tug of war until both share the same vision of the final output in decision making. Decisions that involve both members of the relationship. Not strong armed or coerced in to agreement or by default, just whatever you want to do to avoid an argument.
Maine’s Peaceful Setting Better For Conflict Resolutions
Surrender is a powerful skill in a relationship. So are words of affirmation, encouragement. The ability to deal with conflict constructively along with effective communication are probably the two single most important skills to learn to have a peaceful, happier relationship. Makes sense. So why is it so hard to accomplish on a regular basis?
Since we are all different, and differences are not deficiencies, then the communication, the conflict resolution styles vary too.
But there are still some patterns to adopt to make the family home a healthier place without the tension, confusion or tip toe silence of resentment out of frustration happening. Which hurts the entire household, family that does not feel safe and secure in that kind of environment. Or for a more successful career, life outside the home and in the world that reminds you no man is an island. We need to get along, learn from each other.
Here is a site that covers some of the building blocks of conflict resolution. Respect for each other is essential to keep a two way back and forth of constructive communication to work toward resolution.
So understanding the process, knowing your strengths and weakness before battle field conditions are set up and cross fire happens. Before the zing of sniping ricochets around you is a good idea. If you want the relationship to last, to be deep, rich and lasting. All that it can be.
Compromise and meeting half way sounds easy enough.
But when suddenly a line in the sand is drawn, a do or die situation unfolds that is life and death important, being relaxed, solution oriented can go out the window. And instead of the knock down drag out. A lot of why something seemingly so small becomes so big is due to the stress release of hormones, the same kind used in caveman days when it was eat or be eaten.
Cortisol, Norepinephrine are two of those stress hormones. Health problems happen from too much stress and learning how to cope, avoid and understand conflict resolution can mean you stay on top of the Earth longer. Not buried six feet under.
It is good to be a good provider, but relationships around you are more important than your labor.
What you do to go beyond meeting the basic needs of a family. Being able to shut off work, take vacations, relax once you have enough saved for the rainy day is key.
Starting out, you may have had to scrimp, save, work an extra job to make ends meet. But there comes a time to open up the financial ledger, realize hey, you can ease it back a notch. You have savings, things paid for and it is time to have more fun as the kids leave the nest. For the better part of two decades, kids do take a priority and should not be neglected. And when you work at a job you love, you never work a day in your life. Passion in both is key. But relationships with the one you loved should not take a back seat, get short changed in over book lifestyles of busyness. Collecting stuff, things.
Could you when things were calm, easy going be able to discuss what you did like, were not as wild about each other? To exchange the list without anyone getting defensive or being wrong? Because everyone likes something different about other people right? Not to change the person but to help the other person know what to be sensitive about.
But remembering how you react to others is even more important to letting them be who they are. Understanding why they are shaped today that way. But together, subtle, slow improvements for the good of the relationship can happen if both work to polish the rough spots to bring two entirely different people closer together in to one solid partnership.
But what if you and your mate were carbon copies.
All fine and dandy right? No, differences can broaden a person and stretch, allow both to grow if they are embraced, celebrated. Be glad no one is just like you, one is enough and none of us is perfect. But maybe in a relationship, two joining forces are way better than each alone would ever be.
It is normal to disagree, discuss, come up with solutions and better communication tools together. And for each to compromise at times. You can disagree and it does open up the conversation and better communication can happen as long as no one is threatened by something different they initially believed right? Can you compromise, not always have to be right? If not why? Explore that and easier relationships can happen.
Can you apologize if you say something too sharply? Or admit that what you don’t want to hear from the other applies, is right when you consider it without anger? Even say you have been kind to point that out, that is was helpful to me? Stand up for your beliefs and not have to back down too.
You can be strong minded, not a whimp but sometimes having a strong viewpoint once in a while can be useful to seeing, accepting the other person’s point of view. Then adding that to your own and coming up with an even better idea or thought jointly.
Or maybe if people don’t have disagreements, if people don’t argue or disagree ever, they are too much alike. Which sounds like a good thing but is it no fun being married to your twin, someone too much alike. Too predicable or neither one can make a decision, take a different approach to life decisions.
Also, using the terms “always”, “never” to really broad brush the other in the relationship is not going to help unity.
Is not true because it is never that extreme right? You and I have a role in how good the solution goes or poorly. You and I need to take ownership that maybe we are not the easiest to live with, and there is plenty of room for improvement.
I need to keep my eyes on my paper, work on my assignment, half of the relationship to be the best I can be running all the communication, actions through God first. It takes time, you can not be hurried or too busy with kids, jobs, something else.
Or ignore the process of conflict resolution, studying the unique dynamic of the two of you when you communicate. Skip all of the study or home work together and soon oh oh, problems ahead. You want to get closer to your mate not run away, or push them away right? I never thought it through that fully either. Don’t feel bad.
Moderation, priorities, not letting things build up and keeping everything in balance has to happen.
Having God at the forefront of your life needs to be part of your plan for richer, more enjoyable living. Is it? Maine, the place to figure things out with less people, more outdoor beauty and natural settings. Less fights more outdoor fun happens in Maine.
God Gave You Five Senses…Use Them All In A Blend In Maine.
Music is communication, not just through the words or lyrics.
But the beat, the melody, harmony. And with music videos you get to see the people, musicians move and groove, shuck and jive.
One song that has been around awhile that sticks in my head, stands out as refreshingly different is by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros.
Catchy, unique and fresh in it’s honest, not spun or slick approach. You can tell the group are friends, not studio musicians brought together for a few gigs or promotional appearances.
They have fun, you can see joy in the female lead singer who is excited, full of contentment and the love between she and the male singer is obvious. Nothing is playing for the blinking red light on the camera and the two are lost in the music. Who would not want to be in that place. You are when you find the music that fits where you are in your life.
Here is a KCRW studio live performance of the song “Home”.
To have everything you need, to be home. Where ever two people who love each other are…they feel they are comfortable, they are heading home.
Maybe there were storms, set backs, but overall sunshine, blue skies and love conquers all is not a bad scenario to strive for when you find the right person to spend the rest of your life with. That is brought in to your life for a reason.
Maybe difficult, hurt, bruised people are coupled for a reason.
And with work, pray, surrender, both figure they are better for it. Share the thought they both got the better end of the partnership. Each got more than they deserved.
To perfect and polish each other through the trials and tribulations, ups and downs. Maine, less people, more outdoor beauty and peace. Become a better person, more relaxed in Maine.
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“Happily ever after”, that how any of us would like to live from here on out.
Until “The End”. But life is not a story book ending. And maybe life would not be so hard if we did not expect or hope it would be easier. Do you desire a life without the heavy lifting on Earth? Think you deserve, are entitled to one that just plays out free and easy, on it’s own and more like Heaven?
The way you approach and react to events, other people in your life speaks volumes on how you were raised.
How you are built, wired mentally, spiritually. Your inside, outer viewpoint when something joyful happens shows the true depth of your gratitude. Do you expect the good to just unfold, think you deserve it because of your “good works”?
Your own effort, dedication, skills, talents and attitude can help shape your self image. But giving yourself the center stage under the blistering hot, blinding spotlights may not be where all the credit is due. Your mate, God, kids, everyone you come in to contact around you helps lift you up. Contribute to your good fortune, sunny days of happiness, getting ahead.
Or maybe what you consider good fortune, a success is your ability to see the small joys that another might miss.
What someone else would say is not enough to tip the scales from a bad day to a good one. Because there is not silver lining for them but is for you as you gain wisdom and understanding. That you are able to take away from painful, hurtful circumstances and come out the other side stronger for it.
There is a purpose behind every problem. Embrace them, don’t run from them. Good lessons for you, your mate, family and all around you that you love and are suppose to inspire. No matter how difficult, confusing, your patience, persistent, attitude can improve you. Help you understand yourself.
It starts with you, then rubs off on others.
Find someone that takes the time to understand you, improve you, that is brutally honest. Tells you what you don’t want to but need to hear.
We live in a fast paced society with quick fixes desired. Wanting, throwing money at “not now but right now” fast complete solutions. Thinking “there, that problem’s eliminated”. Or was all the other person’s fault and I am free. Not so fast. Happiness is an inside job and expecting those around you to provide it is selfish, self centered. Exhaustive for those running in circles to stay in your blessings.
Thinking others around you are irritating, not meeting all your needs or helping you to be happy misses the point that they have struggles too. And some of your expectations are only obtainable, possible through God alone. Your mate is not able to to provide them. Yet. Much of what you need, expect, want is independent of you or your mate. It is not a case if they worked harder, you could be happier. A merry go round of replacing those people that seemingly offend you is not the key to inner peace, contentment. Same problems follow you as junk in your trunk.
The “I’ll be happy if…. ” or “I’ll be happy when…” means your happiness is postponed, on hold.
You are waiting for other people or events, circumstances to come around more to your way of liking, thinking. The “ifs” and “whens” may not turn out the way you hope and dream. But trusting, obeying can alleviate all your difficulties in life and lower your expectations to something more realistic.
Just be happy, jouful yourself first rather than expecting your mate to provide it.
Don’t adopt the “I will love you if” or “I will love you when” critical spirit that comes with a price tag. And when it is not delivered out of exhaustion, lots of frustration, silence, resentment happens. Which leads to low self esteem, your mate feeling like a failure, inadequate, unloved. It all snowballs, avalaches back and forth as the relationship loses unity, oneness.
In time with prayful dedication, daily work, you can get stronger and not just expect life with someone else would be easier. Using setbacks as life stepping stones. Tools to tackle the areas of your life you need to change. Skills to learn to accept those you can not. And less than loving ways all of us display because we all sin, make mistakes and often just don’t keep being the light in the darkness that comes from only one source. Reflect that love you gain with knowing God.
Use the painful situations you suffer through as boot camp to get closer to God.
As a challenge to learn more about yourself. You have choices, it’s your life and don’t listen to anyone that tells you you are no good. Or that you have very few skills or talents. You and I have lots of good qualities and can put them to work for God’s purpose.
Don’t question some people’s need to beat you up, bring you down. Instead, come out the other side of struggles, difficult situations better than you were going in. Take ownership of your mistakes.
Keep your eyes on your own paper and work on having better character traits. But realize others in the relationship sin too. Not intentionally but because of praylessness. A log in their eye. Being too busy with the wrong priorities. Too sensitive from needs not met that you think the other should automatically be able to. Realize that they are struggling with meeting your needs but out of love try. Failing misserably. Or just because of spending too much time being defensive, trying but missing the mark completely. There are major changes going on inside my heart.
The most real, genuine, interesting people are ones who have endured dark days.
Came out of the pain, suffering in a seemingly hopeless situation with a strong, greater faith. Because they were broken, abandoned, with no ones arms to hold them and no where else to turn but God. Who made you, understands you and will direct you if you let him. We need God in our lives.
God does his best work when you and I surrender. Reach out to him, keep him close all your life. The greatest life lessons are taught under fire and being tested, stretched. Realizing you and I are far from perfect. Never will be nor should we strive for total perfection. Not going to happen. But we can improve. Be happy with that, strive for that.
You learn skills, get “schooled” and unlock answers in suffering when you get stripped to the bone. Your heart ripped open, exposed. Your pride, ego, vanity get pushed aside in pain and that is where real life lessons get learned.
My Dad’s University of Maine commencement speaker told the graduating class wearing those strange square hats he hoped they all had major set backs early in life.
Better earlier than later to save future heartache. So they could benefit from mistakes in the beginning of their journey of making a living, marrying, having kids and developing better relationships.
We all need to fall on our face, to not take ourselves so seriously. To relax, just let the life current pull the canoe, kayak, boat along. Stop paddling upstream. Adjust your sails and use life’s lessons to improve. Take full advantage of your troughs, valleys and don’t just expect mountain tops all the time.
Soar higher, freer and believe more in yourself even if others you love and trust don’t.
Everything that happens in life is already known. Playing out right on time, on schedule for a reason that often defies logic. See the spiritual gain that can happen, strengthened you rather than crying out for life to get easier.
Not feeling sorry for the predicaments you often put yourself in is a sign of maturity. And creates a greater awareness to see the warning signs to keep them from happening over and over. Everyone has struggles, pain and suffering too… it’s not just you. God loves us, is in complete control. Get closer to him, learn from him. He made you, understands you and me.
Open up your heart, let him come in to your life. Let him work, improve your “insides” despite what may be going on in your “outsides”. Look up, not down. Don’t try to skirt the roadblocks, or sweep them under the rug blaming others for not measuring up. Or letting you down. The patience, dedications to get on your knees is the source of your strength for greater self esteem, sense of worth and purpose. Don’t waste an opportunity to learn, improve your character. Get stronger, don’t expect easier.
Maine, make the trip. Come for a day, stay a life time.
Do you see them much because you live close to them?
Or are you NOT in the group of half of us in this country that live with in fifty miles of where we grew up?
Some people have parents they don’t enjoy or connect with regularly.
A few are resentful, blame their parents and folks around themselves for any unpleasantness, unhappiness. All that is wrong in their life with sometimes too high of expectations of others, too low of themselves.
But I fall in to the group that are grateful, appreciative for my parents who are now deceased from this Earth. Were they perfect, heck no. Neither are you or I. But being respectful for the parents you had if you were not an orphan or just had bad to the bone parents is important.
Maybe you don’t know where they are, who they were.
Or someone else stepped in to help raise, shape you. Maybe it was the entire Maine village from little league coach, teacher, pastor or extended family members that were by your side. I appreciate my parents even more the older I get because of years being able to add, see their wisdom with sharper 20-20 vision of just how lucky I was.
When you grow up on a Maine farm, run a small family business, you see, spend a lot of time with your parents, siblings.
And during the work, labor you exchange ideas, share and communicate about life, family, hopes, dreams.
Kids learn the value of hard work, develop a greater sense of their place and importance in the family. They feel needed, have worth, are more responsible, more mature and secure with a purpose in their live, the family.
And what you saw, experienced growing up if it was good, healthy means those traditions, habits, rituals shape the way you raise your kids.
Outline the game plan for day to day in the family relationship if you are priviledged, blessed to have kids of your own. And if dysfunctions exist, abuse or neglect happens, then the adult child is going to have to work harder. Really have to think hard about the right way to do it when they did not witness it first hand in their own childhood.
Maine is a neat state to grow up and raise a family, make a living, get community involved. The great outdoors with a lower population and more nature, wildlife can not help but add to the experience of life. We are connected, look after each other when the population is lower in a rural state like Maine. Everything is home grown and nothing is stronger than the heart of a Maine volunteer. That puts his, her all in to an act of kindness, something they believe in strongly. They step up to the plate. All the time. This is there purpose in the community.
Death is not viewed as the end all in Maine either.
In just Houlton Maine alone, a town of about 6700, there are a dozen churches. You can view the abundance of places to worship God in a six by six mile town many ways. That prayer driven good down to Earth people abound. On their way to a better, final place. A real home.
That various, distinct versions of worship exist because not everyone is on the same page on what the right way to do it is. Or that we all are basically doing the same worship process but don’t all get along. See eye to eye.
Maybe because there are specks, logs in them? Or we just have not gotten to a more mature, serious level of worship. And church hopping happens to find the right fit. You should not be comfortable in your worship. Being happy is not as important as being holy either.
Hopefully you can embrace other religions without being threatened with your own.
Take the time to study them all is the best advice right? Don’t judge others, their worship experience. All are wired, plugged in to hopefully sooner than later in life really bottom out, get on their knees and open up their hearts. To cry out, ask for forgiveness of sins, start repentance, reconcilation.
Death can mean the beginning of real living in a better place and our short time on Earth is just a staging area to prepare us for the real event. Where we are reunited with passed on loved ones that departed before us. Death is part of life. Should not be feared and kids should be made to respect it, expect it and not worry about it.
Growing up my family made regular visits to the cemetery.
I did the same thing with my kids. It was not a morbid place or only reserved for graveside services during a burial. We visited not just during a loss, sad times of mourning. And to learn our connection to other family members, to know we are part of something bigger, other generations. And to hear stories about deceased family members to pass on. And for perspective on ourselves. Because history is sometimes your best predictor right?
My kids would ask me what my uncle this, aunt that were like.
I feel bad for folks that are lost, have no family or have cut off the one they had. By not any action of their own or just out of plain necessity. And I remember one time during spring that the wire trash receptacles were full of plastic and silk flowers removed with replacement life flowers added to the graves at Evergreen Cemetery.
My oldest daughter Elizabeth noticed some graves were all decked out, some looked like no one had visited for decades. While the boys and I were studying one family grave, Elizabeth took the better plastic flowers out of the garbage can and used them to spruce up the shabbiest grave, after removing some grass, applying some housekeeping skills.
It hit me as kids know a better sense of justice, fairness, kindness than we adults do.
They don’t want anyone left out. They champion the underdog. We lose that child like honesty, goodness and need them around for reminders of gentle loving ways to treat others.
We become better people teaching them too because they keep us honest.
You can not tell them one thing, and do the other and feel good about it as a parent. Consistency is key. Bible based direction is an absolute to get it right. Have a solid plan.
I am glad my four children, two step children got to know my parents, Nana and Buppy. Kids are better for the time spent with grandparents on all sides of a family. Tap in to yours if they are alive. And especially if they live local. Don’t waste a valuable resource of experiences, wisdom and strive to be closer to family. Embrace them, learn from them. Maine, simple living for powerful results.
