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Tag: self improvement

  • You Are The Best Actor For The Part In The Script Of Your Life.

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    Who are you, no really who are you…what makes you tick?

    Never has the effort, process of “finding oneself” been more pronounced than today in society. How did so many people become lost, and who’s tending the day to day activities, minding the store?

    Personal days taken away from work and sick days used as one more way to play hookey from our professions. Work that satisfies is a job you never have to struggle a day at in your life right? But as labor becomes less fulfilling, more automated, the void to fill that space needs a sympathetic family, an understanding, supportive partner. And activities that energize, are plain downright fun, enlightening.

    That’s where Maine comes in on the time you log on the life treadmill for self improvement, the quality of living.

    The four season outdoor space to think clearly. To dial up your awareness levels of what is really important to a person in life. Your life. Not the one lead by the advertising marketing folks for an illustration of how you should do the two step, twist, line dance. But good old, one and only you. What’s it gonna be sailor, mister man, chummy.

    What defines you and the direction you need to take when change happens helps if you like where you live. If you are in the right place and just know it. Feel it in your bones, deep in your gut. And when more is expected of you on the local level in a small Maine town which all are, there is more a sense of contributing to the greater good. And less sitting in the corner and taken out of the game by your own devices or option to be selfish, all to your lonesome.

    The process of self discovery never ends.

    But the fear of the loss of living a life to its fullest gnaws at a person brought up to be an over achiever. Taught to expect not just good but great, spectacular. Over the top, as big as life and twice as frightening things to happen pretty much round the clock in their short stints on planet Earth. Our competitive society preaches bigger, better and be all that you can be. Whether wearing Army green or not. Having fun in Maine in the process.

    No one is keeping score. Stop. Oscar Wilde said “only the shallow know themselves”. The process of self discovery never ends. Because we continually grow, change and never cease learning. The weaknesses, blind spots, stubborn lines in the sand drawn by ourselves when we dig in. Stand crossed arm at a halt and dug in on what we call principle warrants examination. The limits, filters we apply to live that rob the harvest of all the experiences start and end from within. Not our surroundings. Not another person, not any woulda, coulda, shoulda’s.

    But the baggage, mortgage from earlier life paths that took a wrong turn can be viewed from another angle.

    No more regret. If you chose to glean the good from any event. Squeeze, ring out the juice of knowledge that is the take away if you study what was your role. Ownership of it instead of the default survival knee jerk of typical denial is slid on a slide under the microscope. The inner workings of your heart, mind, soul. You are that channel and how is the reception of the broadcast coming in on your small set of rabbit ears? Learn anything worth sharing? Let’s compare notes. Share the puzzle pieces each of us has earned, collected, possess that the other needs.

    Why you react the way you do and why can’t others be who they are on the same stage under the smoking hot lights and behind the orchestra pit? Scrutiny, critical and self flailing needs to wave the white flag. Come out of the foxhole into the sunshine, fresh air, to embrace a new day. Maine, the place to set the next scene in act two or three, whatever count you are up to in the life journey.

    I’m Maine REALTOR Andrew Mooers, ME Broker
    207.532.6573
    info@mooersrealty.com

  • The Litte Voice Inside Your Head, How Many Do You Have To Guide You?

         Mentors…they say you should have more than just one.

    The thinking or logic being if that mentor dies, there goes the guidance. You lose your only GPS of wisdom, fountain of experience, conduit of common sense. Also, no matter how gifted or learned someone is, there are limits to the sheer volume, scope, depth of this mentor’s contribution to helping you shape your life.  All of this begs the question. Do I take direction, will I listen, do I need to improve my thinking on the building blocks of human relations and how to not just survive but flourish joyfully in a world less than perfect?

         If I was taught responsibility for my actions by caring parents. And if I sincerely want self improvement or realize others have puzzle pieces I need and that I carry pieces that will unlock life mysteries for them too, this is a beginning.  The premise that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom brings up another question. Is God in your life? And do you fear anything, anyone? And if you further am humble, not so self absorbed that you blame others when things go wrong as a given, a certainity, you have maturity to know your role in the good, the bad, the ugly in the landscape around you.

         Today, with more of a “me me me mentality” and “want it now” poor impulse control that is a big part to blame for the current economy, the mental health of this nation in priorities and “wants” versus “needs”, we have to get back to the it being about others premise that puts your happiness or sense of peace coming from others. 

    If a mentor is able to show you thru living example how to practice counting your blessings, being grateful, what joy looks like, feels like, that is a huge boost to life long contentment.

         Knowing others out there have a much harder row to hoe gives us a whole new perspective and outlook. If a mentor is able to show us we need to dig in, work harder, pull ourselves up by the book straps with personal responsibility in life, we no longer expect others to meet our every need. We gain a self satisfaction of a job well done, over coming adversity with an active role from within. Searching, questioning, learning. It is a life long habit or should be. Not who do I blame, life’s not fair, a poor me personal habit of retreat serves no constructive purpose.

         The voices inside your head.

    There’s the one from your mom gently but constantly reminding you of basics you apply day to day like, everything in moderation, plan your work and work your plan, gratitude for what you do have being way way more constructive and settling than I wished I had this, could do that, had not done that. Another voice of your dad telling you to hang loose, get your sleep, stay in touch with your brothers and sisters. Getting your chores done before playing. Your teachers, professors, employers all adding another voice to the guidance stream and then your own voice of reason, experience that grows. It is like a healthy garden planted with the right variety, the correct spacing, the degree of nurturing, cultivating, watering to lead to a successful harvest and then do it all over again.

    How many voices do you have in your head? Do you follow and learn from them or is there a struggle between a void

    Early Voices Inside My Head From Parents Growing Up On A Maine Farm.
    Early Voices Inside My Head From Parents Growing Up On A Maine Farm.

     of missing installments, lack of players, or a personal dose of “don’t tell me what to do” that hinders maturity, growth and the ultimate passing down of  life lessons to the next generation? Practice makes perfect is the addage. To play better golf, better anything you need to interact with better talent. But it all starts by turning up the volume of those information mentors, listening and applying what you hear and being able to harness, shape and create what is a unique you in your life. The variables change to make your life more of a Rubic’s Cube and interesting or challenging. You also have the past, present, future dimensions to consider to be in your right place for fullfilment, contentment, peace. Maine is a good place to enjoy less traffic, no crime, an awareness of the beautiful space around you. Neighbors who pitch in to help with a true sense of belonging, of local community pride live in Maine. Those are the voices I listen to inside my head. That’s why you might consider retiring here, relocating to Maine too.

    Maine REALTOR Andrew Mooers